We’re back with another Sibling Spotlight feature. You guys know by now how much we LOVE and ADORE the connection shared amongst siblings especially sisters!
Next up meet the Crittendens: Kara and Courtney
Introduce yourselves (Tell us a little bit about yourselves):
Courtney: Hi! My name is Courtney Crittenden. I am 27 years old. I currently work for Naval Sea Systems Command (NAVSEA) in Washington, DC. I began working there after I graduated Summa Cum Laude from North Carolina A&T State University with a Bachelor of Science degree in Electrical Engineering in May of 2008. I was born in Washington, DC and attended Oxon Hill High School, Science and Tech Program, there I found my passion for math and engineering. At Oxon Hill, I was a star varsity athlete playing both basketball and volleyball.
Post College has been a great journey. I bought a condo in Downtown DC and I completed studies for my Master of Business Administration. In my spare time I like to shop with my mom and sister, hang out with friends, travel and tutor/mentor young kids. I have received awards from Black Engineer of the Year and Women of Color national organizations. I am very passionate about tutoring the next young black girl to follow in my footstep and pursue engineering.
Kara: Greetings! My name is Kara Crittenden and I’m 23 years old. I was born in Washington, DC but I currently reside in Oxon Hill, Maryland. I work as Financial Analyst for BAE Systems in Washington DC, and I attend University of Maryland University College part-time to obtain my Masters degree in Accounting. While attending Oxon Hill High School, it was there that I discovered my love for accounting and cheerleading. Four years later, I graduated Cum Laude from North Carolina A&T State University in May 2012 with a degree in Accounting. And today, I am a Cheerleading coach to the Allentown Boys & Girls Club 8&under cheerleading squad. Attending North Carolina A&T was one of the best decisions of my life. At A&T I received a world-class education, learned so many life lessons, and made some great friends, not to mention I followed in the steps of my big sister Courtney who also attended A&T from 2004-2008. In Spring 2010, I became a member of the illustrious Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated and almost one year ago in March 2013, I bought my first home.
I am a lover of life and life to me means family and friends who you can trust and who trusts you. My friends would describe me as easy going, a good listener, loyal, silly, and a Chipotle lover. My favorite pastime is shopping and I love keeping up with the latest fashions/trends. I would love to open my own boutique or store one day. In my free time, I’m always either shopping or reading a book. I love to read for the absolute joy of it. I live for a good book!
I just try to live and enjoy my life to the fullest. Everyday is a journey for me and I look forward to growing and helping others along the way.
Describe your relationship with your sister:
Courtney: My younger sister Kara is my best friend, shopping buddy and stylist. My sister and I are 4 years apart. She is very overprotective of me, especially when it comes to me and dating. Guys beware going to take a lot for her to like you. I am the oldest but Kara never ceases to amaze me. She is very daring and I love her for that. I believe growing up I teased Kara a lot and thought she was an annoying little sister wanting to do everything I did. But now I cherish the moments we get to spend together or even all the things we have accomplished at such a young age. I am so proud to be her big sister. I know she looks up to me but I look up to her too.
Kara: My sister is my best friend. She’s always there for me no matter what. She’s level-headed and straightened me out whenever I got off track. We share so many of the same interests and likes too. Fashion, music, shows…you name it! But she’s also my role model. She’s inspired me to do the best that I can, and that when you work really hard it will pay off. Never to settle. She’s one of the smartest people I know.
Something that you love about your relationship with your sister and something that you could work on (Strengths and Weaknesses):
Courtney: I love that Kara and I can argue or be mad at each other and 5 minutes later hug or ask to borrow something like the argument never happen. Our relationship is very close and it’s just the two of us so we can’t stay mad at each other for long. I also love that we are always thinking about the other one. We are both very generous and it pays off to have a sister who is loving and caring.
Something that we could work on would be are arguing. We disagree sometimes about the stupidest stuff but are both very passionate and stubborn so we think are way is the best way. We could also work on not having to have the last word.
Kara: My sister just gets me. She understands me. Me and my sister are 4 years apart. When we were younger that seemed like a big difference. Now that I am 23 and she is 27, it doesn’t seem that big of a gap. In fact we are closer now more than we have ever been. We talk everyday and she is my confidant.
But we are normal sisters. When we argue, we argue! The best part about that is, we never let the argument consume us. It could seem like we were on two completely different pages, and both of us thought we were right, but we are always able to move past it and accept/respect each other’s differences.
Through the years funny sister stories: (Was there an older/younger sister complex?) (Any funny stories?)
Courtney: Something I always find funny is that me, my sister and our mom Sheryl, LOVE to shop. It’s our favorite pastime. Our mom jokes that whenever she buys something she has to buy it in 3 (one for her, me and Kara). Sometimes we are not always able to go shopping together so one day it will be me and our mom shopping and the next day it will be our mom and Kara shopping. On multiple occasions our mom says Kara and I will pick out the same EXACT thing. Telling her it’s cute and we want to buy it. What can I say we have the same taste and really like clothes. Being the oldest, I thought my parents were setting the standard with me. I thought. I was wrong when it came to Kara. I had to wait until I was 18 to get my first piercing or tattoo. Kara not so much. She got to get her belly button pierced at 16 and her first tattoo…I will let her tell that story. The youngest one always gets the best deal.
Kara: My sister and I used to bicker like cats and dogs back in the day. Epic fights and arguments.
She was the mean big sister who wouldn’t always let me hang out with her. My sister always wanted the spotlight too! My dad used to film home movies of us all the time. On my third birthday as usual he had his camcorder out filming us. I was really excited about one of my birthday gifts my new Barney shoes. My dad began interviewing me and I responded in all of my 3-year old garb. And as I’m telling the camera “My birthday is September 13th!” Courtney steps out of nowhere and pushes me out of the camera! She replies and says “And MY birthday is September 3rd” and my dad says no try again and she says “November 13th” and he says no again. Flustered and embarrassed she belts out “Let me step out!” She steps out of the camera view to think about it. My dad turns and puts the camera back on her and she finally says the right date “November 3rd” (LOL) This is one of my favorite home movies to date! It brings us to tears every time we watch it. Courtney had to learn to let me have my shine too!
Any advice to other siblings on maintaining a healthy relationship:
Courtney: Laugh, Love, Live. Sounds cliché but your sibling is your first best friend. Of course you are going to fight and/or disagree but the love is still going to be there. You have to communicate and not hold things in. Talk about then laugh about how stupid it was to be so mad. Love that you aren’t going to agree on everything. Healthy debate or competition is good. It will push you both to do better. But at the end of the day you are family and you love each other.
Kara: Never let anything come in between you and your siblings. There is no love like family’s love and you always have to keep that first. No matter what happens always try to work it out because family will always be there for you and love you. If you want to maintain healthy relationships with your siblings, stay in touch, spend time together and share your happiness and sadness. It’s all about communication, trust, and forgiveness (Life is too short to hold grudges).
Why is it so important to have a good friendship/relationship with your sisters?
Courtney: I believe that it is very important to have a good friendship with your sister. I can always count on my sister to give me great advice or be there when I need her the most. A good friendship with your sister is also important so you have someone to celebrate life successes with. Your sibling is your support system and will be there for you no matter what. Remember friends come and go but family is forever.
Kara: Having siblings is a beautiful thing. Sibling relationships begin early in our lives and last as long as we live. They will always be your sister or brother. Courtney will always be my only sister. I believe that we all should take advantage of the fact that you have been given a person who will be a part of your life long term. If a healthy relationship is maintained sibling relationships can be a source of strong support, unequivocal care and love. Go above and beyond to show your siblings how much you truly do love them. Even when you don’t feel like loving them….do it anyway.
I just don’t know what I would do without my sister. She’s my rock.
You can keep up with Kara @karacrittenden and Courtney @TallSlim1313 on Instagram. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us ladies. We appreciate it! Hug & Kisses! You know the deal if you would like to share your sibling story with us hit us up at firstname.lastname@example.org we’d love to share it 🙂